Seduction Flirting And Misconceptions

When we talk about flirting, seduction or falling in love, we usually tend to think about things like poetry, magic or even supernatural phenomena. People don’t perceive these kind of interpersonal relationships as part of the family of human behaviors like, for example, eating or sleeping.

Some may argue that comparing flirting with eating or sleeping is not fair. The last two are fundamental behaviors, primal instincts imprinted in our genes, part of our animal side while flirting or falling in love are intellectual activities or, for someone, unexplainable things.

In fact, how can you explain a thing like falling in love with someone if not with magic or with a divine intervention: “it was fate” or “there was chemistry between us”. These are irrational statements that many people use to describe how their relationships started or why they were successful or unsuccessful flirting with another person.

They use this kind of statements because they really don’t know how and why it all happens or because they don’t want to think about flirting or falling in love as merely socio-biological functions. They prefer to fluctuate in their enchanted world, where feelings and behaviors are not explainable, they just happen because they have to happen, because destiny or some entity wanted them to happen to that person in that moment.

This is perfectly understandable. It’s a lot more poetic to think about love as “something we can’t explain” than to level it down to biology, life functions and brain cells. But, unfortunately, that’s how it is. Flirting, courtship, dating, falling in love and love itself all have one end: procreation and the evolution of the species. A very important mean to this end is courtship.